How to end Domestic Violence

October is domestic violence awareness month. I could quote you a thousand statistics. I could share my own survival story. I could expose the raw pain of it that still washes over me at unexpected moments. But mind numbing facts and emotional voyerism has done little to change the fact that one third of people in this country have lived through hell. Instead I’m going … Continue reading How to end Domestic Violence

Control’s Perspective

On the surface it looks bleak. It sounds like a judgement, a put down. And frankly, if you are actively engaged in judging yourself and others everything sounds like a put down and a judgement. “I’ll never get it right, and I’ll never get it done. Why even try?” At some point we all have our inner Eyor speak up in a gloomy, glum way. Continue reading Control’s Perspective

Boundaries Part 4 – Cross Fencing: Internal Boundaries

Welcome to our last post in the Boundaries series. If you haven’t read the other blog posts I highly encourage you to do so. In the country we use perimeter fencing to keep our stock in and visitor coming to the main gate. But, we also use cross fencing, or internal boundaries, to keep our home pasture in order. The same idea applies to our … Continue reading Boundaries Part 4 – Cross Fencing: Internal Boundaries

Boundaries Part 3: Dealing with Fence Cutter

The past weeks we’ve been discussing boundaries. You know why we all need boundaries and how to set them. This week is on what to do when people refuse to respect those newly set boundaries. I truly believe most people are good natured and don’t want to hurt others. Some people take a bit to get use to a new routine. However, with a few … Continue reading Boundaries Part 3: Dealing with Fence Cutter

Boundaries Part 2 – Putting in Fences: How to Set and Communicate Boundaries

Setting healthy boundaries is one of the hardest life skills I’ve tackled. In the past feared losing the person or offending them. I grew up with my grandmother who herself lost a mother at a young age, was abandoned by an alcoholic father, and then was passed through the family until her very hard grandmother took her in. She was an amazing woman in many … Continue reading Boundaries Part 2 – Putting in Fences: How to Set and Communicate Boundaries

Boundaries Part 1 – What are They?

Profit recently learned to jump fences. Considering that Serenity is directly across the street from a small school this is not a good thing. Profit is a one thousand pound working steer in training to become an ox. At this point in his life he a half ton puppy who LOVES children. He is actually quite beautiful when he jumps. If he was a horse … Continue reading Boundaries Part 1 – What are They?

Enter the Stillness

When I was in grade school I found a book called Cowboy Wisdom. It was a collection of simple sayings. I read it one afternoon almost thirty years ago. One quote has stuck with me most of my life. “Find a place you can enter the Stillness” Over the busy decades packed with degrees, volunteering, businesses, farms, relationships, heartbreaks, triumphs, pain and joy I’ve clung … Continue reading Enter the Stillness