October is domestic violence awareness month. I could quote you a thousand statistics. I could share my own survival story. I could expose the raw pain of it that still washes over me at unexpected moments. But mind numbing facts and emotional voyerism has done little to change the fact that one third of people in this country have lived through hell. Instead I’m going … Continue reading How to end Domestic Violence
On the surface it looks bleak. It sounds like a judgement, a put down. And frankly, if you are actively engaged in judging yourself and others everything sounds like a put down and a judgement. “I’ll never get it right, and I’ll never get it done. Why even try?” At some point we all have our inner Eyor speak up in a gloomy, glum way. Continue reading Control’s Perspective
We often think of self care as an activity, something to do. However, a friendship with an animal can teach us about being in the moment. Animals live in the moment completely. The moment is somewhere we rarely live as modern humans. Continue reading One Hour a Day Self Care: Pets
Mae Mae and I disagree on certain points, but the relationship is not the disagreement and the disagreement is not the relationship. The relationship is holding sacred space in each other’s lives and hearts for the other.
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In 1996 a group of teenagers from all over the United States took a trip to Peru. Several of the young ladies were from the Midwest. I’ll never forget the look on one young woman’s face when a very well respected lacol pastor embraced her and kissed her cheek. Or the look on the line of young men’s faces when they realized, they too were … Continue reading Honest Affection
Welcome to our last post in the Boundaries series. If you haven’t read the other blog posts I highly encourage you to do so. In the country we use perimeter fencing to keep our stock in and visitor coming to the main gate. But, we also use cross fencing, or internal boundaries, to keep our home pasture in order. The same idea applies to our … Continue reading Boundaries Part 4 – Cross Fencing: Internal Boundaries
The past weeks we’ve been discussing boundaries. You know why we all need boundaries and how to set them. This week is on what to do when people refuse to respect those newly set boundaries. I truly believe most people are good natured and don’t want to hurt others. Some people take a bit to get use to a new routine. However, with a few … Continue reading Boundaries Part 3: Dealing with Fence Cutter
Setting healthy boundaries is one of the hardest life skills I’ve tackled. In the past feared losing the person or offending them. I grew up with my grandmother who herself lost a mother at a young age, was abandoned by an alcoholic father, and then was passed through the family until her very hard grandmother took her in. She was an amazing woman in many … Continue reading Boundaries Part 2 – Putting in Fences: How to Set and Communicate Boundaries
Profit recently learned to jump fences. Considering that Serenity is directly across the street from a small school this is not a good thing. Profit is a one thousand pound working steer in training to become an ox. At this point in his life he a half ton puppy who LOVES children. He is actually quite beautiful when he jumps. If he was a horse … Continue reading Boundaries Part 1 – What are They?
When I was in grade school I found a book called Cowboy Wisdom. It was a collection of simple sayings. I read it one afternoon almost thirty years ago. One quote has stuck with me most of my life. “Find a place you can enter the Stillness” Over the busy decades packed with degrees, volunteering, businesses, farms, relationships, heartbreaks, triumphs, pain and joy I’ve clung … Continue reading Enter the Stillness