October is domestic violence awareness month. I could quote you a thousand statistics. I could share my own survival story. I could expose the raw pain of it that still washes over me at unexpected moments. But mind numbing facts and emotional voyerism has done little to change the fact that one third of people in this country have lived through hell. Instead I’m going … Continue reading How to end Domestic Violence
For the child me, grace was an incongruent concept to the shame and destructive seed of self doubt and loathing sown into field of my tender heart. The concept I had of grace was in short of big old lie that tormented me endlessly with fear and disconnected my soul from the Oneness of the Infinite Divine. Continue reading The Light of Grace
To me, this is universal meditation at the core. This concept, with or without a particular religion, has the capacity to create true change in our world for the better. The choice to include or exclude the Divine from daily practice is a personal choice. Continue reading Christian Meditation and Metta Meditation
What is kindness? It’s not sugary sweetness, but a stretching of self beyond Ego. Continue reading What is Kindness?
In 1996 a group of teenagers from all over the United States took a trip to Peru. Several of the young ladies were from the Midwest. I’ll never forget the look on one young woman’s face when a very well respected lacol pastor embraced her and kissed her cheek. Or the look on the line of young men’s faces when they realized, they too were … Continue reading Honest Affection
Welcome to our last post in the Boundaries series. If you haven’t read the other blog posts I highly encourage you to do so. In the country we use perimeter fencing to keep our stock in and visitor coming to the main gate. But, we also use cross fencing, or internal boundaries, to keep our home pasture in order. The same idea applies to our … Continue reading Boundaries Part 4 – Cross Fencing: Internal Boundaries
The past weeks we’ve been discussing boundaries. You know why we all need boundaries and how to set them. This week is on what to do when people refuse to respect those newly set boundaries. I truly believe most people are good natured and don’t want to hurt others. Some people take a bit to get use to a new routine. However, with a few … Continue reading Boundaries Part 3: Dealing with Fence Cutter
Setting healthy boundaries is one of the hardest life skills I’ve tackled. In the past feared losing the person or offending them. I grew up with my grandmother who herself lost a mother at a young age, was abandoned by an alcoholic father, and then was passed through the family until her very hard grandmother took her in. She was an amazing woman in many … Continue reading Boundaries Part 2 – Putting in Fences: How to Set and Communicate Boundaries
Profit recently learned to jump fences. Considering that Serenity is directly across the street from a small school this is not a good thing. Profit is a one thousand pound working steer in training to become an ox. At this point in his life he a half ton puppy who LOVES children. He is actually quite beautiful when he jumps. If he was a horse … Continue reading Boundaries Part 1 – What are They?
I was in K-5, sitting hunched up under the great big pine tree on the recess field reading my science book. It was an ache and burning feeling. That aching and burning have become a constant companion over the past thirty five years. Continue reading The Lesson in The Pain