Setting healthy boundaries is one of the hardest life skills I’ve tackled. In the past feared losing the person or offending them. I grew up with my grandmother who herself lost a mother at a young age, was abandoned by an alcoholic father, and then was passed through the family until her very hard grandmotherContinue reading “Boundaries Part 2 – Putting in Fences: How to Set and Communicate Boundaries”
Profit recently learned to jump fences. Considering that Serenity is directly across the street from a small school this is not a good thing. Profit is a one thousand pound working steer in training to become an ox. At this point in his life he a half ton puppy who LOVES children. He is actuallyContinue reading “Boundaries Part 1 – What are They?”
When I was in grade school I found a book called Cowboy Wisdom. It was a collection of simple sayings. I read it one afternoon almost thirty years ago. One quote has stuck with me most of my life. “Find a place you can enter the Stillness” Over the busy decades packed with degrees, volunteering,Continue reading “Enter the Stillness”
I was in K-5, sitting hunched up under the great big pine tree on the recess field reading my science book. It was an ache and burning feeling. That aching and burning have become a constant companion over the past thirty five years.
Guile. Charm. Slyness. Hidden Agenda. Cunning. Trickery. Deception. Call it what you will, it’s all around us. It erodes trust and simple, straight forward communication. What is the opposite of guile? Frankness. Trust. Openness. Sincerity. Honor. Honest relationships. I am surrounded by guileless people. It is incredible freeing to have simple, straightforward conversations. I neverContinue reading “Life Without Guile”
But as I’m getting older I’m realizing more and more that as a man thinks, so goes his (or hers) life. I’m ready for a new theme song.
I was raised in a time of shifting ideology in this country. Traditional gender roles and second wave Feminism clashed in the media and stereotypes clashed around me as the child of a single mother in a male dominated industry. A male teacher told my mother he was shocked at how “well adjusted” I amContinue reading “Monday’s Musings : I Can’t Do EVERYTHING”
Everytime the word should slides out of our mouths we undermind our own personal authority in our lives and give that athourity to insecurity.
A small action can cause chaos over time without the intention of anything malicious.
I’ve heard the phrase “when my ship comes in” my whole life. In fact, I’ve used that phrase more than one when talking about my future. It basically means to hit the big score, to cash in all your chips, a life changing event filled with nothing but good things. So often we wait forContinue reading “Monday’s Musings: When My Ship Comes In”